Groom Refuses to Invite Mom to His Wedding for Tragic Reason

A groom on Reddit is hurt his mother, who treated him like he was “invisible” his entire life, never really cared about him until he got engaged, and so he’s refusing to invite her to his wedding.

“My parents divorced when I was 8, and my mom (let’s call her Layla) remarried pretty quickly after that. She married this guy, Dave, who had two kids of his own. Ever since, it’s like I was no longer a priority in her life. She focused all her attention on Dave and his kids. Like, I’m not exaggerating when I say she treated them way better than me. They’d go on trips, she’d go to all their sports events, and they’d get everything they wanted,” the man began, noting he began to feel like he wasn’t “her kid anymore.”

He moved out when he turned 18 and hoped their relationship would get better, but sadly it didn’t.

“I’d text her once in a while just to check in, and she’d either not respond or say she was busy with Dave and his kids. I figured if she didn’t care, why should I? So, I just stopped trying to reach out,” he continued.

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After announcing his engagement, however, his mom began contacting him like they were “super close — even saying things like, ‘I can’t wait to see you start this new chapter!’ Like… seriously? I haven’t heard from her in years, and now she expects to be front and center for my wedding?” he recalled.

After he told his mom she was not invited to his wedding, but that he would be open to healing their relationship afterward, “she started crying and saying I’m holding a grudge and that ‘I’m her son’ and ‘she deserves to be there.’ But I don’t know how I’m supposed to just forget the fact that she ignored me my whole childhood in favor of Dave’s kids,” he shared.

Now, his family is “split” regarding his decision. “Some of them think I’m right and that I shouldn’t just let her show up when she never showed up for me. Others think I should just let it go, and ‘it’s just one day’ and that I should let her come to the wedding to keep the peace,” the man concluded.

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Users were baffled by the groom’s mom’s behavior and backed his decision not to invite her.

“Childhood neglect is not something you forgive and forget for most people, especially when you’ve come to terms with not having a relationship with your parent. She doesn’t get to waltz back in to ruin what’s supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life,” one person wrote.

“This is your wedding, you’re supposed to have the people you love around you, it’s not for her or anyone else. You said you would talk about things after the wedding which is reasonable. It’s up to you who you invite, not your family. It may be unpopular with some of them but ultimately it’s your decision,” another commented.

“Your mom basically pulled a ‘Hey, stranger!’ like she’s an old friend sliding into your DMs after ghosting you for years. Now, because it’s a big life event, suddenly she wants to play ‘proud mom?’ Nah, she missed out on the backstage pass a long time ago,” someone else chimed in.